Some of these lessons are expressed in a now-out-of-print book Thomas Murray wrote about parenting, called A Child to Change Your Life.
“If I teach any children of mine nothing else,” he wrote, “I want them to know and understand the absolute, profound and positive relationship between happiness and love.
“But I plan to give them no long lectures on love. In the first place, I know of no way to tell them why I love their mother. And how much I love her is not something I can say, but something they must see.
“I will not even try to tell them that they must search for a love that looks and sounds and seems as great and as good as ours. I think only that I must show them that loves like ours exist.”
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